Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Presenting......

Our Wedding Colours!


Monday, January 18, 2010

Why am I doing this?

So today I was looking at cakes.

Whyyyyy???? I keep torturing and second guessing myself. Bad Bride, Bad!

In Project Wedding I came across this and I feel compelled to share. Isn't it awesome? The cake matches the dress fabric!


I am tempted to look into doing more without our cake. Maybe not that.... But I feel it needs something.......

Valentines Day

In the 7 years of knowing each other, H2B and I have never had a "real" Valentines Day. My one law regarding the day is that if it falls on a workday, flowers MUST be delivered to work. And he has done a glorious job of this.


2004 - Our first Valentines Day I went over his place and we went on a picnic nearby that I had made up.


2005 - The year after was when we had broken up and my bf at the time got me a pony teddy with a red rose but I was working so we didn't do much more than that.


2006 - The next year we thought we would do v.day but I was full of the flu so he got me a cheeseburger and large fries and he got me my promise ring and I got him his.


2007 - We were both working. He had to work back and I was doing hospitality back then and so of course had a couple of shifts.


2008 - Mark was sick so we had cheese on toast and watched tv like we would any other night.


2009 - Friends had their engagement party. Closest thing to a 'valetiney weekend' we've had.. we got to spend the night in a hotel but he got v.drunk, the night ended about 330 and after a few mishaps in the streets of Bunbury, he was to drunk to do much and I certainly wasn't in the mood which until about midnight had been a lovely fun loved up night. As the saying goes, nothing good ever happens after 12.


And so leaves 2010. My theory is, it's our wedding year. We're meant to be doing loving gestures and all things soppy and romantic as once you're married isn't it all meant to stop?? I vote we do Valentines Day in full style. Dinner out, romantic night, flowers and champagne. It's our year of love and all things sickening so lets exploit it to the limits.


So googling for things around town I came across this delightful sounding dinner at only $59.90 ph and the menu is something we'd both enjoy, not something he would stare at going "Foie gras in duck jus and a ceviche means what now?" and me turning my nose up at raw food. I struggle with raw, especially with beef and I prefere foods and words I also know what they mean and don't need to google as I read the menu. We're not real fancy people haha.
And it's only $60. Just in budget and it's a 4 course meal with a glass each of sparkling wine and a rose for the lady on arrival. Perfect.


Now I just need to find a killer LBD and frock it up abit!

Smells like Wedding

I recently came across a most beautiful perfume, Rose The One by D&G and even though since I was about 18 (way before engagementness) I decided that my ultimate favouritest perfume E V E R - Miss Dior Cherie would be my 'wedding day scent'.

But now I am thinking Rose The One AND there is a boy perfume for it to. So I was even thinking we could have his and hers special wedding day perfumes. Just hope H2B likes it when we go take a sniff :)


Bridal Brain.

Ok so I am slowly going crazy being a perfectionist!! Why am I spending countless hours looking for the perfect votive holders or centrepiece models????? If anything is going to be blue, it has to be the perfect exact match shade of Tiffany Blue. I’m very detailed oriented and this is driving me nuts. I love the wedding planning I just wish I could find the perfect everything that won't leave me broke and owing a second mortgage and isn’t found in Australia and everyone knows what I am talking about and stops giving me alternatives!

I have been engaged a year and seven months. I was a cruisy, laid back bride with no complaints and let everyone tell me their opinions and idea’s and set up a savings plan. Our vendors (booked) have been simply the best and I love them all to pieces. Especially my photographers. I’ve said it before but even if we had gone with someone else, I would invite them to the wedding as guests. They are just that awesome.

It’s literally been since the clocked ticked to 12:01 and it became January 1st 2010 … leaving me with 10 months and 27 days till our wedding day that the usual stuff I once mocked other Brides to Be about all kicked in. I am worrying it’s not going to be done in time, that one the night before the wedding I am going to be rushing around the ballroom getting it all set up. I am worried it’s not going to come together and that 10 months isn’t enough time.

Logically looking at it my checklist is as follows:

Hair and Makeup Artist for 5
Bridesmaid dresses and shoes
Groomsmen suits and shoes
Grooms suit and shoes
Reception Décor
Invitations – making and sending
Seating Chart



I think that is literally everything I have left to do.

Bride brain is seeing it as:

OMG THE WEDDING IS IN 10 MONTHS ANDI HAVE NO ONE TO DO OUR HAIR AND MAKEUP AND THEY GIRLS DON’T EVEN HAVE DRESSES OR SHOES YET AND WHAT ABOUT THE BOYS?? H2B HASN’T EVEN ASKED HIS BOYS YET. AND OMG WE HAVE TO GET 50+ INVITATIONS MADE TO GET SENT OUT IN SEPTEMBER. IS THAT TO EARLY? TO LATE? WILL WE HAVE ENOUGH CARD? WILL THEY LOOK CRAP? AND WHAT THE HELL IS THE RECEPTION GOING TO BE LIKE? I NEED CHAIR COVERS, AND FLOWERS BUT WHAT ELSE………

And yeah. It kind goes on like that. I didn’t want this. I didn’t plan for this. I had Ceremony/Reception Venue, Photographers, DJ, Cake, Celebrant all booked by end of 2008 (engaged may ’08) oh no celebrant was in April 2009. But still. I am organised. I have nothing to worry about.


BUT WHY ISN’T THE BRIDAL BRAIN PART OF MY BRAIN GETTING THIS?!

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Melbourne Lady to the Rescue

Had a massive chat with Melbourne Lady last night, two and bit hour worth actually.

And I feel sooo muuuuch betterrr now!

I also have new inspiration, I mean I am me. I can plan anything. I have awesome ideas. I know what I am doing, and I can totally pull this wedding off. Woo!

So after I got off the phone and let everything she said about fabulous I am sink in (pep talks rock) I looked at everything I had done so far. I still love the tiffany colour. But am slowly working in my ultimate favouritest colour ever in to things - Pink!!


When I first started with the tiffany blue colour Mum once said the reason why I am having trouble with some things is because I was so far out of my comfort zone. Tiffany Blue isn't an aqua blue, true TB is going into green and I LOATHE green. I think she may have been onto something as since I decided pink for the BM dresses, things have slightly seemed more clearer to me.


And after last night, looking at everything, I am still going with that vintage vibe and my offical colour palette I can actually say, instead of pastels with tiffany blue as the main colour behind everything, is pale pink and tiffany.



Watch this space for further details!!


Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Possible Bridesmaid Shoes

Saw these the other day in Spendless Shoes.


I really like them and Sprinkles agree's they are quite comfy. So hopefully the other 3 will like them and more importantly Pony will fit them.


I have had sooo many shoe crushes for the girls but sadly Pony hasn't been able to allow these crushes to be a lover. So I wait with baited breath .... *please be ok!!!* I love shoes but I don't think I can keep getting my heart broken over them. Maybe Pony can go find shoes instead of letting myself be set up for failure?!

Not want.

These are the two main pics from the movie that gave me the inspiration for colours, theme and all that for the wedding.

But like previous post said it is proving to be a nightmare. So why don't I just go and sign up to a particular decorator down there who has a portfolio of identical weddings, just change the colours and locations.
So introducing my new wedding inspiration. I hope my wedding can also look like every other one she has done.

  • Draping on the ceiling - Check
  • Chair sash to match the table sash - Check
  • Some kind of small floral centerpieces - Check

A big bridely vent.

Since we got engaged in 2008 I have prided myself in being an efficient and organized bride. By July 2009 all I had to do was wait until I felt ready to select my Bridesmaids, see some people are what decorating idea’s and options we had for the reception and wait for H2B to choose his Groomsmen. Not forgetting hair and makeup and also waiting to 2010 to order my wedding dress.

Everything was all ticked off, Celebrant, Venue, Flowers, Invitations, Photographers, DJ … I had an image in my mind on what the day will be, I envisioned the reception. It was Marie Antoinette, Vintage, French, Decadent.

Maybe I should have chosen somewhere in Perth. Somewhere like The Grand Chancellor or there about. Somewhere that had the gold etching and an over the top ball room. Maybe then people would have easily fallen for my chosen theme. All I hear is No, Can’t do that, not a single, Sure, No Worries, Would you like that in ivory or gold?! People that worked to make my wedding dream a reality, after all isn’t that what I am paying them for? Maybe the decorators and planners don’t understand that down south. I expected something like…

Planner: “So what did you have mind?”

Me: “A Marie Antoinette theme, vintage French with tiffany blue and pastel touches, not forgetting floral and feathers and pure indulgence. Dessert buffet table similar to this….. *shows a pic* and I don’t want it to be like every other wedding with the chair sashes and the table sashes and the bombonierre no one takes home”

Planner: “You seem to have a great idea on what you want. What about…. Floral centerpieces in vintage inspired glass bowls with tea light candles in the tiffany blue but we’ll use aqua as it’s the closest available without going to blue or to green. We’ll gladly get that Chandelier centered above the dance floor and how about damask patterned photo frames we’ve picked up from antique stores and salvos for table number holders and this gorgeous stand for this scroll with your monogram on?”

Me: “It’s like you read my mind”

Jen proceeded with her wedding planning journey all the way to the happy ever after at the reception where everything was as she imagined it and didn’t care the tea light candle holders were a shade wrong as everything else was fabulous, the flowers fresh and fragrant, the bridal table set perfectly with the drapes over the ceiling not looking like every other wedding thanks to the amazing chandelier which sparkled in the down lights over head.

SO WHAT IS SO HARD ABOUT THAT?????

Anyways, I had all the main things booked and the savings plan had started. I had worked it so I can a few months of weddingness and chill out and not become an over stressed border line Bridezilla.

Guess what. I failed.

I was right on track and then in November I asked my Bridesmaids. A decision I am already kicking myself over.

It then became apparent I should start looking for a decorator to get my vision into gear. But 4 companies later, all I am left with is comparing chair cover quotes.
My French Vintage Inspired Theme seems pointless with no one but 3 BM’s liking and agreeing on it. The 4th I don’t even know nor really care about at this moment in time. No one is ‘seeing’ it how I want it to be. Having a vintage looking birdcage and flowers like once kind of resembled the arrangement I wanted isn’t what I had in mind.

I am still not 100% on the dress. But what the hell does it matter? That one looks fine and everyone likes it and its flattering and crap.

I am sick of bending to be nice to everyone and make sure everyone else is happy even if at the end of the day I am going home and screaming into my pillow out of sheer frustration.

End of the year not only equals our wedding, but also Christmas and 2 other weddings. So now we are looking at refinancing or getting a credit card which = more debt but I don’t know how we are going to manage it all too still include a honeymoon of some kind.

I am looking for night work to be a shelf filler or something since my tradie H2B can’t manage cashies on the weekend as he thinks cause he works during the week, weekends are his time to do sweet fuck all no matter what anyone else thinks, needs to do etc.

I hate not having money all the time. I hate debt.
I feel bad if I whinge to people as it seems like I have it all and am still not happy with it. People always turn it around to make what was just put seem like I am the bad guy.

I am just so over it it’s not even funny anymore. And I think it’s more than just a moment of stressed out brideness.

Vent over.

So now I am looking at a stupid plain wedding. If people can get away with hideous balloons as centerpieces it surely doesn’t matter that much does it? Can’t have roses. They’re too expensive. Why don’t I just have candles? 3 candles, tied with a ribbon with those wishing stones around them? At least the future mother in law will be happy with that. But the candles have to be from Dusk as anywhere else gives her a headache.